the dance of the ink riddled fingers

how to honour those above you, when you think you’d do a better job.

Posted in Uncategorized by enisea on 24/08/2014

There’s no poetry for this. This is the difficult task of living in today’s western society: where honour is rare and criticisms, rife. I’ve been challenged by Humility. Because there is no success in a society where every individual is unabashed about finding fault in every other.  There is an epidemic of rudeness that has plagued the western culture, dictating the execution of respect and honour under the pretext of “freedom of speech”.  This has erked me to no end, but particularly now, because I had been alerted that I too had been infected.  Thus, to overcome my diagnosis of poison, which cripples one’s ability to see beauty in others (Imago Dei), I thought to write a (by no means exhaustive) list for healthy perceptions of those above you, sort of as a doctor might prescribe to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

Here is my understanding of (the Biblical definition of) Humility: where love and respect is awarded to another human being, just for being a human being; and said love and respect gives preference to such other over oneself, because that’s what Jesus would do/did.

How to Honour Those Above You, When You Think You’d Do A Better Job
(if you could relate to the title, you have the same issues as I = you need some humble pie)

  • Share your strategies (as suggestions) in ways that don’t make you superior.
  • Back those above you, in their decisions, and talk to them if you don’t understand it.
  • Pray for them.
  • Do what leadership suggests and do it with excellence (without an ounce of complaint).
  • Thank God that you don’t have to be in their position, because it’s more work than you realise.
  • Write down your ideas/dreams and use the time spent not yet executing them, to refine them.
  • Check yourself to see if your desire is for those above you to succeed.
  • Ensure that the words you are speaking of your leaders would bless them and anyone else you talk to about them.
  • Realise that faithfulness and commitment is more valuable to a team than believing you have a better way of doing things.
  • Thank them for everything they’ve done because they’ve lead in such a way that got you to a point where you will succeed them in one way or another.
  • Take them out sometime to appreciate/honour them and enjoy their company as a person, not a position above you.
  • Remember: Jesus had to endure 30 years of knowing He was better qualified than any above him, but rather than give up/change church/complain, he spoke when it was His time and not a moment sooner.
  • Don’t mistake having to work hard as an abuse of freedom.  Every part of this kingdom toils for the cause of Christ, if you have a weekend, access to the internet and time to read this, you have much more free time than a billion other kingdom harvesters, who continue to work relentlessly.
  • Forgive quickly – none will escape being let down/disappointed by somebody above them. Remember we are all human, we are a body, and we can turn failures into learning when we exercise grace and forgiveness as a matter of urgency.

I think that’ll keep me busy enough for the moment.  If anyone thinks of other ways to learn humility, then please, let me know – or challenge if one of my ideas if you don’t think it works! Please don’t misinterpret this as my latest set of commandments, but rather a checkpoint to review my heart, whenever I think my voice should be louder than one of my authorities’.


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  1. saNdra said, on 03/09/2014 at 4:20 PM

    such practical and definitely noteworthy reminders! being humble is so hard! esp love that 3rd last dotpoint, reminds me of Philippians 2 heaps :)

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